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In construction, there’s a concept called the impossible triangle. You can prioritize cost, quality, and speed, but you can only pick 2.
Sometimes we lie about the real reason we say no to requests or invitations.
For most of us, it’s easier to say no to personal time requests than professional time requests. However, if you constantly say no to personal priorities in favor of professional, then at some point your life will probably feel really out of balance. If your personal life feels like it’s in trouble because you can’t say no to professional requests, then perhaps some visualization could help.
Most people are intimidated by the prospect of saying no. So especially for requests when a yes isn’t expected or required, giving the words to say no in order to respect someone else’s no can be a thoughtful gesture.
The April 29th episode of Work Life with Adam Grant was about how to say no. Adam stated that one of his preferred ways to say no is by using personal policies.
Take the hint, listen to your elders, build the no muscle in your own life…now.
Clarifying your priorities and bringing your bouncer on board to uphold those priorities may be a helpful way to break out of your people-pleasing, never-say-no tendencies.
I’m sure we’ve all said yes to requests that we’ve resented later. Whatever the request, it’s best to not consent and resent.